Anyone who thinks that a child is loved by one gender more than another has been on the wrong side of a real bad break up. I love my children dearly and looked forward to the day I was done serving in the military and spending time with them.
Now I find myself waiting to Skype them (video chat) just for a moment or two. It is hard now that 3 are teens and have other interests then saying hi to their dad that they hardly have seen in so many years.
I can’t blame them but that fact doesn’t make it any easier to not miss them and feel depressed that I am missing out on some of the fun things in life.
My oldest turns 18 this next month.. 18!!! Where has the time gone? One thing I will stress to every parent who has to make a decision in life over family and better pay or benefits in a job - FAMILY MUST BE FIRST!
Looking back I will say that the stability I offered my family was not worth all the time I have missed out on growing up with them. I wish I had stuck to my guns and said no to my now ex-wife and never joined, continued to work in the factory so I would have that quality time with my kids.
Never let someone no matter who that person is, push you into a decision that just doesn’t sit right in your gut, especially if it involves your children. You only go around once in this world and if you can learn something from my mistake, it is place your children first! Yes some of you if not all I am sure are grateful for my sacrifice but it is one I wish I never made.
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